As
is well known and accepted and cannot be challenged; man is a social animal.
Human beings need to build relationships, share, care, give, as well as take
from those around them. Relationships can be equated with energy in the world,
flowing between hearts and brains of all human beings. Just like the laws of
physics that say that the total quantum of energy in the universe is constant;
it just keeps getting transformed into diverse forms; so also relationships keep
building between people- a vegetable vendor, a postman, a teacher, an employer,
an employee, a parent, friend, lover or spouse; all are examples of
relationships you build on because you NEED them. And teenage is the most
important time for building these connections. Healthy bonds with the
appropriate elders in your life assure a gradual and graceful progress to a
strong and confident adulthood.
Ô Commitment
Ô Communication
Ô Cooperation
Ô Consideration
Commitment
Relationships
thrive on trust and commitment. And this is not just true between friends or
lovers as you would commonly tend to believe. You can be committed to your
school teacher or college professor or your grandmother too! If you believe in
a teacher you will learn better. If you believe in your parents, you will
obtain life skills that will make you excel in whatever you do. If you are
committed to friends, you will have life long companionship and will never feel
a pang of loneliness ever. Commitment is not forced. You must set yourself free
and trust people around you to build on your faith that will then help you to
find a place in their hearts forever.
Communication
Simply
and most appropriately put, communication is a transfer of information. And
this transfer is EXTREMELY imperative to have your viewpoints expressed
directly and appropriately instead of expecting everyone to read your mind and
know what you want. At the tender adolescent age, most relationships with
adults get sour because of the generation gap and communication lack. So learn
to be open and assertive but NOT aggressive. The opinions of your parents and
teachers do matter; so you must learn to talk to them without worrying about
the consequences. It will bring you closer to them and you will begin to
appreciate their viewpoints a whole lot better.
Cooperation
Music
is pleasing to the ears because of the unison that exist amongst the different
players and their instruments. Each musical instrument is different from the
other: drum, violin, flute, piano; but put together make beautiful music. Out
of congruence, it would seem like noise. In relationships too, cooperation is
important or else it takes no time for them to get sour. You must learn to
accept and share the views of people who matter to you in your life. You cannot
live in isolation. The Gestalt rule says that the ‘WHOLE’ is different from the
‘SUM’ of its parts. Just like 5 musical instruments played together sound so
much better than each one played separately; likewise, good cooperation amongst
everyone in the home, classroom, library, gym, tuitions, club etc will help you
strengthen relationships for years together. And who can be better than
experienced your own parent, uncles, teachers, relatives and the whole barrage
of people you meet in your life day in and day out? Waste no time, cooperate
with them now!
Consideration
You
must have enough time and inclination in your routine to consider the opinions
of those around you. Again, you may not agree in totality with everyone but you
must always be kind enough to offer your ears and listen to the viewpoints of
people. They will usually have some more experience (maybe not intelligence but
yet a good load of experience!) that you can use. May it be selection of career
or partner or a job in the future; you must consider the opinion of the adults
so it builds their trust in you and vice versa. This will help keep any kind of negative emotions
(fear, anger, disinterest, disagreement) at bay and you will be able to put forth
your own point to them better.
Looking at yourself self:
accepting transitions
We
usually respect people for different reasons. These include:
Ô Age
Ô Relation
Ô Education
Ô Career position
Ô Experience
Once
we respect these factors we find ourselves relating to people older than us
much better. Maintaining friendships in that sense is simpler because there is
never a hierarchy. But relations with adults need nurturing and you ought to
keep yourself prepared with the essential emotional tools to relate to the adults
in your life more optimistically and purposefully. After all it’s going to
benefit you in the long run! So don’t think of a 100 meter sprint; instead,
learn to focus on the marathon of life; and strengthen your bonds with your
mentors today itself!
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