Jan 26, 2013

Learning to connect

The world we live in has collective unconscious networks. Carl Gustav Jung proposed that everyone has a 5% of their consciousness common with every other being on the sphere. Several intertwined associations, dependence, interdependence and counter-dependence. There is always too much that holds people together, sometimes even in a pathological manner. Colors can blend into a mosaic, or end up as a dark muddled blob, depending on how they are merged. Twine rightfully braided forms a beautiful pattern whereas left by itself becomes a messy inseparable coil of knots. Connections need to be precise. That is when messages are transmitted dead-on and relationships are nurtured.
Ties that bind
Seldom are we sure about what we feel for most people and why it is so. The deepest connects (obviously) originate from the core. And the core is small as a spec. Like the epicenter of the earthquake that generates ripples that devastate, or the center of this magnanimous sphere that gives us life. The core offers paramount fortitude. Appearance, physical attractiveness, likes, interests; all form surface elements. Respect, trust, freedom of expression and empathy are the core binding essentials of relationships. If ties that bind are weak, the bond can never be durable.
Barrage of flurries
It’s a busy life. And it’s not an easy life. Personal frustrations and let downs drain energies. The nagging deadlines, flustering traffic, nosy neighbors, egoistic friends, over-involved parents, increasing costs and dwindling savings; survival seems like an ordeal. Midst this, taking the time to care for another, nurturing associations, building on connects, targeting the core... sounds a bit unrealistic and fantasy like. Make a pattern among the ripples of the storm. And stick to it. The world will not change for you. But you can make the right amends for yourself.
Love thyself
The most important of all beings is YOU. Generosity is desirable, but not self-beating.  In a selfish world, one needs to be greedily selfless. Serving others but serving yourself too. Think about it: Who loves you enough? Who cares plentiful? Nourishes you amply and heals when you hurt? Have you made right choices for yourself? Spare some energies for this special person called: YOU. Label it on a time table as ‘my time’. Write out your ideas and thoughts on who you are, where you want to be, and how do you want to connect with the world. List down your fears, debate their existence and find ways to fight them. Do a reality check on your perspective of life. Ask yourself:
  • Who am I?
  • What do I want?
  • Why do I want this?
  • Where will I get with this?
  • Which is the best way to do this?
  • How will it make me grow as a person?
  • How will I connect better with everyone?
When you have direction, you can head the right way. Else life becomes a futile meander. Spare time for your own peace so you can further offer it to those who matter to you.
Don’t be a phony
No one likes phonies. And yet, everyone at some point gets sucked into the plethora of fake expressions and counterfeit jargon to please the world. There’s no need to forge emotions; if you do you’re going to get a sham back. Genuine relationships are limited but their richness and essence is far superior to the multitude of superfluous friendships and acquaintances. Know this before it’s too late.
Grow within
The emotional quotient is an inner awareness that connects one with the conscience (though many often fail to realize the existence of it!) The conscience wants nurturance, concern and attention. A will to raise the self above the self .To grow. Not with age and years but in awareness of what ones needs indeed are. When you bare yourself, you allow people to touch you…

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