SELFLESS-ness (1)

Forced conformity?
Duty and loyalty are somewhat enforced conformity constructs. Being earnest on obligation is also commendable; it allows people to work sincerely, serve honestly and labor genuinely towards a purpose. However selflessness (also well understood as altruism) is an extension of acts performed without any beneficial purpose; of being there for others without mandate, devoid of personal gain, minus tangible advantage. True selflessness seems rare since there always seems to be some hidden benefit to all actions. Good seems harder to perform than bad (usually). Many have equated goodness to be synonymous with feebleness; since wrong doers seem to be big and arrogant and boisterous while the good are meek. The yin and yang frequently twist about in the circle of life. Most know when they have been selfish (thankfully so), while some have it involuntarily engrained (sadly). Philanthropy is a conscious struggle; some traits that define it may be as under:

less self more others

Softhearted

Empathic

Lucid

Forthcoming

Loving

Effervescent

Sympathetic

Sensitive

Soft hearted

Everyone needs affection. Belongingness is now categorized as a basic need, at par with food, clothing, air and shelter. Preservation of the self does call for the nerve and determination to stand for oneself midst all odds to combat the world; each one fights their own battle after all. However, the solidity ought not to infiltrate ones persona and roughen one’s ability to commiserate with the rest of the biosphere, which essentially is comprised of its people, all of who need warmth and fondness from everyone around. Softness in demeanor is a trait of the strong; the weak use aggression to counterweigh their character feebleness. The unkind too, when in need, seek help from the kind.

Empathic

Prejudice in interpersonal emotionality is usually condemned, (it is deemed highly selfish to sight only one’s own viewpoint) subjectivity in appreciating the feelings of others is a mannerism common to the altruist.  At a broader perspective empathy was initially regarded as an understanding of the emotion of another, caring for those around, and having a true innate desire to help. Today realistically, empathy is rare. Stepping into someone else’s shoes doesn't come easy (they always bite!) and the subjective perception of pain and pleasure are typically unique to each one of us. We fail to see beyond our own unfulfilled needs and unaccomplished desires. However, unconditional tolerance to the emotions of people helps one to understand them without judgment. The selfless only can attain that level of acceptance and regard for others; the rest are entwined in their own rut of troubles and misfortunes; there’s virtually no time or intent to care for anyone else. The empathic souls live for the wellness of others; it's a superior form of existence.

ability to reflect

Lucid

Transparency in communication, interaction, intent as well as action is enigmatic.  If only legitimacy and genuineness were more rampant. Masks may transiently disguise blemishes; they persist nonetheless. Illustration of personal talent comes easy but mere acceptance of one’s own flaws is arduous (leave alone correcting them!). Beauty however needs no expression, it unfolds itself for all to observe. Lucidity in character allows self-expression with a high element of self-acceptance. The world isn’t perfect, we the least (since we ourselves make it). Knowing that and accepting it builds honesty and veracity in interface with others. Clarity in resolve is a must to make the world a better place. What goes around, comes right back; the ability to reflect helps in dealing with one's own troubles too.

Forthcoming

Few have the time to be present for others. Most are buried in their own woes; little do they yearn to approach others most of who have little positive to offer since they are twined in their own mess too. There ought to be some time for each one of us to step out of our little caves and see the sunlight. There may be rain at times, storm, thunder and lightening too; they’re all good for a change. Being effusive and frank is constructive for the self as well as those around. It lightens moods and enlivens the ambiance. When looking out for others before oneself, being welcoming is the finest and most righteous virtue.