Love thyself some more

The wrong thoughts

inactivity is fun but action is dedication
laxity and lenience on the self is suicide
love yourself and drive yourself to action

Many are unmindful of the expression of love for oneself. For the overweight person, self-indulgence may involve over eating, vindicating inactivity, not following an exercise paradigm, skipping medical checks and failing to adhere to weight control methods. So also is true for those who drink, smoke or gamble. Their love for the self appears to have positive intent. They shield themselves from pain. However they allow (and justify):

• Laxity
• Lenience
• Indulgence
• Forgiveness
• Permissiveness

Such people do not love themselves enough. Their concept of love is misshapen. They are unaware of the right resolve and erroneously believe they’re doing the best for themselves…

Simplify it

As much as intent, emotion and action towards loving oneself are essential, looking at the whole picture differently from the sum of its parts often helps. You cannot wake up one fine morning and decide to feel good about yourself and love yourself; it’s never that simple. However it’s not as complicated as we estimate it to be either. The tallest mountains are climbed a step at a time. And choosing the appropriate path that is not as steep and will allow for a steady climb; is an intelligent choice to make. It’s important to educate oneself adequately to make that selection.

Ask questions-Seek answers

Identify what you do for yourself and adjudge for yourself how that impacts you in a positive way. Beware of the sinful pleasures, they only entice you for momentary gratification; they decay the interior and leave you weak when they’re done with you. Seek remedies to life’s troubles. The best answers to most questions are self-contained.

• Why am I overeating so?
• How must I lose weight?
• I am smoking, but why?
• How can I quit smoking?
• Am I drinking too much?
• How do I stop drinking?
• Am I a relaxed person?
• How can I reduce stress?
• Do I really respect myself?
• How do I grow as a person?

Outside help is recommended and undoubtedly gives wise elucidations to the muddled mind. However the best person to help the self is the self. We all have one dedicated best friend in that mirror out there. No one can offer better direction to us than we ourselves. If we know that, the job is half done. Any external help will unquestionably fail if we don't choose to correct ourselves. So make the wise choice to and use the best of what is available to you.

Don't demand love, be it

The warmth and comfort of ‘being loved’ is unparalleled with any other. However self-regard ought not to be based on the respect one gets form the world. What others offer to you is their lookout, what you perceive and receive is yours to keep. You don't adore all the gifts you receive; even then you humbly accept them and either make use of them or pass them on. One mustn’t look at oneself from the eyes of the world. Each one has their specific standards of reverence. Choose your own and find what’s best for you. After all you matter the most to yourself. It would be hypocritical to say that you love others more than you do yourself. Selfless selfishness is the way of the actualized…