Thinking wrong…
Fruitful thought processes are those that
lead to pleasurable emotions, satisfying feelings and beneficial outcomes for
all. It’s not uncommon to think negatively, worry excessively and ponder
repeatedly over negative and worrisome possibilities (not even realities!) And
it costs us the happiness and peace of a lifetime; yet we cling on to thought
processes that disrupt relationships, destroy friendships and break connects. Faulty
thoughts have specific recipes. So does disaster. If you know what messes the
dish, there’s a possibility that you can beware of those ingredients…
Insecurity and lack of confidence often
convince one to believe in pejorative intentions of others. These are usually conjectures
of conspiracy, invariably always imagined; occasionally tinged with some
reality that forms the core on which the idea grows and gathers mammoth
proportions.
- She is out to get me
- He’s plotting against me
- He is definitely jealous of me
- She thinks she’s smarter than me
- He wants to prove his superiority over me
Personal responsibility for thought
All suspicious allegations involve adverse
presumptions of outward intentions. There is diminished responsibility of
personal action. The locus of control is always peripheral in 100% of such thinkers.
Consider the flow:
- I’m not as pretty as her!
- She looks prettier than I do!
- She thinks she is prettier than me!
- She thinks that I am not pretty at all!
- She dislikes me because I am not pretty!
- She’s definitely the bad one for disliking me!
The development of delusion
Psychologists endorse that the search
for meaning is the driving force of thought in most minds. When there’s no
cogent explanation, one may adopt irrational clarifications for the same. The
imagined belief may be powerful enough alone to arouse the negative idea in the
first place. Once cognized, one may want to avoid the dissonance and
convince oneself because no other justification works.
Ignorance is not bliss
The world is full of inquisitive creatures
(like us). The more we know, the lesser we presume. There’s no shortage of
gossip and those who do it know the reality of the chatter. Many regard gossip
as a venting and relaxation time! However, truly false presumptions do not
offer tranquility. They fulfill the hollowness of the ego and rationalize
actions of oneself (not of others) and transiently offer answers for one’s own
inadequacies. When one feels strongly negative about another, the first reality
check would be to look within and consider the projective ability of one’s own judgments.
The mind is often weak; it begs to seek its peace and on occasion does so using
erroneous means. Ignorance is not bliss; conscious awareness and personal
accountability is. Get responsible for what you think, how the thoughts make
you feel; and what you behavior you project with those emotions. Get real…
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