Jan 7, 2013

Is it all OK? Maybe not?

perfect world
The perfect world
We await that picture-perfect moment for doing things we always knew we need to do but assumed it wasn’t the right time. The perfect moment to propose to your loved one, the absolute instant for the big business move, the important investment or essential partnership, what more, the right time for a healthy diet, exercise pattern and sleep hygiene; all need apposite scheduling for them to run smooth. Specific patterns to be followed and unambiguous arrays to be maintained; perfection is a commendable dream and each of us desires that impeccable world where everything works without a glitch.
Reality
This sphere is only as perfect as we make it out to be. The world of your dreams seldom ceases to be a fantasy; as reality habitually continues to gnaw and bite. Imperfections rule and things never seem to go as planned. The grass stays greener on the other side, paychecks smaller, waists larger, cholesterol higher, financial burdens heavier, taxes greater, sleep lesser and temperaments shoddier. It just never seems right enough. And every dimension of existence seems to be inferior. Why does reality seem so grim? And the rainbow shone in shades of gray? Where did the colors vanish?
Great expectations
The secret to accepting things gracefully is being prepared for them. The nastiest storms also seem restful when you know of their arrival and equip yourself to face them. You don't expect star service at the tiny roadside cafeteria. You don't complain either when you don't get it. A bicycle isn’t expected to take you at 40 miles an hour. If only expectations could be set as realistically for everything in life. It’s not pessimism to have true-to-life desires. Cravings stem from the mind. Dreams too. These are all permissible as long as there is no condition that dreams are obligated to come true and everything ought to go the way you long for it.
Should it?
If only we had the will (and ability) to look within ourselves for a critical appraisal to know the depths of expectations we have of the world around us. For inexplicable reasons, everyone in today’s world thrives on an external locus of control with minimal responsibilities taken by the self.
  • The kids should listen to me
  • She should treat me with respect
  • I should get a discount at that store
  • He should not pass my lane like that
  • I should have lose weight with this diet
  • He should’ve noticed and praised my outfit
  • I should have gotten that bonus and promotion
Oh how blissful it would be to have that mystic fairy grant all those magic wishes. But those are fantasies, adequate to muse a child, but insufficient to suit survival in the real world. If ‘should’ were to be removed from the dictionary, the levels of satisfaction in this world would surely escalate. All of what each one desires; everyone probably deserves too, but it needs to be earned. Respect, regard, love, praise, acceptance, appreciation are all anticipated; but it holds ground if you offer to the sphere instead of merely taking form it. What goes around comes around.
It’s not a fairy tale
There are no fairies or genies that fulfill wishes. This is a self-made world; of the self, for the self and by the self. A democracy in that right. It’s important to use that democracy to better oneself. It never seems to be OK. But it’s never as bad as it could be either. When it’s not OK, you need to take the steps to make it OK. It never gets all right by itself. Contentment and satisfaction are the indulgences of actualized souls who have attained nirvana. Till then it’s an endless struggle to gratification.
Beauty in the flaw
The world is not perfect. That's is what gives it room for furtherance and innovation. Relationships even after 20 years of togetherness have hope and scope for betterment. Promotions occur for some just a year before retirement, you can lose weight anytime, buy a new outfit and look stunning anyplace, and build friendships anywhere. It’s always OK if you see it that way and if it’s not, you make it OK or change the way you see it. This is your world in your hands. You can do what you want with it (within the limits of ethicality and justness of course.) Beauty is hidden in the eye, you just need to see things right so that they look right to you…  

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