Shy? Am I?

If familiarity breeds contempt, and is considered pejorative; unfamiliarity sure does worse. It can build a sense of ineptness, diminish confidence and interfere with relationships. Shy personalities tend to internalize their problems, dwell on their worries and insecurities within instead of expressing their concerns to near and dear ones. Seeming unfriendly and inapproachable on the exterior, they suffer silently with self-brooding and inarticulacy; and predispose themselves to depression and anxiety. There is a diversity of moods and personas in this universe; each one is free to perceive as well as express what they feel, how they feel, whenever and however they feel it. The ones who don’t as much may be categorized as shy. However they never cease to really feel…

Whose fault is it anyways?

What went wrong?

When so much in love and so drowned in passion, why do relationships get tarnished? Why at the most convoluted moments in life are empathy lost and connections broken? Why does nothing seem enough and then things fall apart? Why is there an end to a beautiful married life? Who is to blame? What did I do to deserve this? I gave it all I could and this is what I got? Why did this happen? How could this happen? Well, too may seemingly straightforward questions and never an answer to suffice. 

What do we know about love?

What we think we know

A thumping heart, tingling in the stomach, sweaty palms, glistening eyes, a blush, a smile, the feeling of being wanted, an amorous virile sensation of colors seeming effervescent and music more livid; the flow of vitality between two people when they look in the other’s eye, sensuality, triggering the constant thought about ‘the one’; is what poets, writer, and lovers imagine and accept to be ‘LOVE’. Love has often been researched and explored; yet remains an enigma to many.

Loss of a loved one

'Some people make the world special by just being in it'

You remember in childhood how hard you cried when your friend moved away to another part of the city? Or when your favorite barbie was lost? Or the best toy car in the world that you had was shattered to pieces when it fell from the window? Loss is inevitable. We are all so attached to so many things around us. And imagine: THINGS that we lose bring tears to our eye, what can we say of PEOPLE? Loved ones; friends, family members, relatives, neighbors even acquaintances who we thought were unimportant to us can sometimes have such a deep impact on our lives, that surviving without them seems impossible. Their presence, in any part of the world, in any state, is acceptable to us and makes us happy. That is how the human heart and mind are tuned to love and want.

Eternity is the ever desired but never attained dream...

Attention Teens: Face rejection bravely!

Walt Disney was rejected for a newspaper cartoonist job because apparently he had no talent…
Thomas Edison was disregarded because of 10,000 failures in his process of making the light bulb… 
Einstein had no choice when he was suspended from his school because he was considered to be ‘retarded’; they didn’t want such a dull child in their school…
If they had let rejection and failure affect them; there would not have been mickey mouse or a light bulb or an understanding of the theory of relativity. With every rejection comes a greater endeavor at success; to those who believe in themselves...

Teen Crisis: My parents embarrass me!

Hey mom you have no idea what’s ‘cool’ so don’t tell me how to behave in public

Dad you belong to a different era. Who dresses like that nowadays?

I don’t want you to be home when my friends come over…just let us be by ourselves

Don’t hold my hand while crossing the road, I know how to cross the road myself!

Whatever happened to wanting your parents to be with you like you used to in childhood? Mom don’t leave me alone, daddy come with me to my school please, dad I think you are cool I want to be like you, mommy come with me to my friends birthday…

Today the same parents embarrass you?

Don't let your crush 'crush' you!

When we say man is a social animal, in the real sense of the word; yes we are all animals. It would be inappropriate to deny the fact that we all have urges and needs and our own individual desires; which in many cases may be dark, hidden and unexpressed for our entire lifetime. Animals have instincts. And man is as animal as he can be. The difference is that he has the power to control urges when he feels it is appropriate to do so. But he does feel the urge as much as he may try hard to mask its expression. Human beings are all about sensuality and sexuality. Having a ‘crush’ is so normal; its just like breathing. And the more we run away from it, the more the idea continues to irk in the darkness of our mind’s closet. The more open we are about it and deal with it maturely; the better we are able to manage our emotions and make our lives fulfilling with our interactions with people around us.

Adolescents: Relating to Adults

As is well known and accepted and cannot be challenged; man is a social animal. Human beings need to build relationships, share, care, give, as well as take from those around them. Relationships can be equated with energy in the world, flowing between hearts and brains of all human beings. Just like the laws of physics that say that the total quantum of energy in the universe is constant; it just keeps getting transformed into diverse forms; so also relationships keep building between people- a vegetable vendor, a postman, a teacher, an employer, an employee, a parent, friend, lover or spouse; all are examples of relationships you build on because you NEED them. And teenage is the most important time for building these connections. Healthy bonds with the appropriate elders in your life assure a gradual and graceful progress to a strong and confident adulthood.