Self-compassion or Self-pity? (1)

Emotions

Emotions are by far downright subjective constructs. Pain, pleasure, anger, sorrow, jealousy, nervousness, disdain; every emotion is felt after a personal appraisal of a given situation. For each one of us, there is only one ‘self’. The rest comprise the remainder of this magnanimous globe. Small as we truly seem in comparison to the gamut that surrounds us, we are the biggest and most important to ourselves. We are our own world, we control our own lives, and we ought to care for our selves, nurture ourselves, love ourselves and heal ourselves when we hurt. Self-compassion is the softest and tenderest of all emotions each one needs to inculcate.

Looking up to yourself

Courtesy and respect for actualized souls is explicit. Honor, reverence and regard are our abstract offerings to people we look up to. There is a lot of goodness in this world: immense talent, profound wisdom and overwhelming aptitudes. Each of these demands admiration. However, one ought to find ways and means, motives and reasons; as well as actions and intentions that enable one to look up to his or her own self. Undue self-importance is not obligatory; it is in fact barred. But self-respect is a mandate for every human; and it must be worthily earned and earnestly netted. The world has no need for self-proliferating egotists. 

SELFLESS-ness (2)

Charity begins at home
While charity begins at home, it’s nice to extend it in the neighborhood too. Offering to others comes with internalization of humane abilities. Each one was indeed born with them; however self-preservation is an entrenched trait too. Fulfillment of needs of the self is paramount. The limits of satisfaction however vary and allow for discontentment more often that satiation. The grey zone separating needs from wants makes gratification challenging. Nonetheless, self-acceptance and personal growth do pave way for gallant behavior, where offering to the world becomes more critical than hoarding it for oneself. The traits of the selfless may be described as:

care for emotions

Softhearted

Empathic

Lucid

Forthcoming

Loving

Effervescent

Sympathetic

Sensitive

It's a new day!

There come those days when you fail to assess rightly who you truly are, why you actually exist and what indeed is the purpose of life. Self-esteem today has been added to the gamut of basic human needs. According to Maslow’s hierarchy, one cannot soar to the heights of actualization without fulfillment of the need for self-worth. Respect from the external environment as well as from within oneself seem imperative for serenity; however greater the focus on the self; higher are the chances of peace. The sun rises each day, deliberately and consistently; it offers its warmth and radiance with impartiality. Each one is offered equal opportunities; they simply choose to use them differently. That is what makes all the difference…

Whose fault is it anyways?

What went wrong?

When so much in love and so drowned in passion, why do relationships get tarnished? Why at the most convoluted moments in life are empathy lost and connections broken? Why does nothing seem enough and then things fall apart? Why is there an end to a beautiful married life? Who is to blame? What did I do to deserve this? I gave it all I could and this is what I got? Why did this happen? How could this happen? Well, too may seemingly straightforward questions and never an answer to suffice.