I need to be perfect

Perfectionism

Meticulousness is no sin; it is a rather coveted trait. The definition and boundaries of perfectionism however are often bleak; what appears enough to one seems way too inadequate to another. Verdicts given by the world indeed count; but what matters most is what we think of ourselves and where we place our self-regard centered on our personal appraisals of us. The ladder of individual growth typically directs upwards, life is about evolution and success concerns bettering ourselves with each passing day. Nonetheless, accepting the self with potencies and inadequacies is the selection of the wise...

Need to want to need...

Deficiency of a few things in life may cause severely negative outcomes: food, clothing, shelter, water, even love. These things are indispensable for subsistence and are categorized as ‘needs’. They are often subjective and felt differently by people. There is a frequent mix-up of needs and wants and the underlying emotional tone of needs and wants time and again adds to the confusion.

• I need to get through this exam
• I need to lose 5 kgs this month
• I need a new outfit for the prom
• I need this new job desperately
• I need to teach him a lesson
• I need to win the beauty contest

Needs have been a favored topic of discussion by philosophers, psychologists as well as politicians. Needless to say; everyone has needs!

Strike! (Not your child; the balance)

Disciplining is all about your knack at striking that balance between autocracy and permissiveness with your child. Children need to get the right message so that they learn the right behaviors. Everyone needs to have these limits set for themselves so they find direction towards the goals they need to accomplish. The younger your child, lesser the self-understanding of boundaries, and more defined should be the limits that you set for them. You love your children (everyone usually does) and the virtues you instill in them come with some level of control and authority; levels of which you have to determine as per your own preferences. Boundaries provide security for a child whose exploratory disposition leads her to explore, but her inexperience may lead her astray. You are the guiding light who knows it all and can direct her.