Why does everyone tease me?

Do we really know ‘when’ we are being bullied?

Do we even know ‘why’ we are bullied?

Do we even realize what’s going on?

You probably don't really know why you are being bullied. You may think you know, but you don't really know. If you think it’s because you are short or fat or dark or ugly; you are wrong. If you think it’s your dressing style or your spectacles or the way your mother talks; you are wrong again. If you knew why you are bullied, you wouldn't be a bullying victim.  Maybe you are really fat and maybe you do have thick glasses and maybe your mother is actually overweight. But you must know that every fat person in the world does not get bullied, everyone with thick glasses is not scape-goated, and many people have mothers, who are overweight, but they all don’t get teased; why is it just you?

Because you invite it!
You don't understand do you?

There is really only one reason why you are the chosen one; and you just don’t end up seeing it. It’s not your looks or personality, or your mother's looks or personality, even though it seems that way to you. Bullies come along and make fun of you. You get upset, and then you to try to make them stop. You tell them to shut up. You try to call them names back and make fun of them. Maybe you punch them (and get into lots of trouble). Maybe you complain to your mother or the teacher or school principal. What you see happening is that the kids are making fun of you, and you are trying to make them stop. You see this happening over and over again every day, day after day: they keep making fun of you, and you keep trying to make them stop. And nothing works. No matter how hard you try, the bullying continues.

When kids call you names and you get upset, they feel great! They can't get enough of it! You are the one who feels terrible, not them. And the angrier you become, the more fun they have. Whatever you try to do to stop them only makes them feel better. They're thinking inside, "ha, ha, go ahead and try to stop me. You can't do it no matter how hard you try!"  you see, they are not calling you fatso because you are fat, or four-eyes because you wear glasses. We all like to have fun, and one great way to have fun is to try to drive someone else crazy so better understand this now!

Think different

You don't realize that by getting upset with people who bully you, you are pushing the other person to do the very thing that you can't stand. So understand that you need to take the bullying attitude positively and put pretence that it does not affect you. You only have to change the way you think about the bullying. Everything else will automatically follow after you correct your attitude. Your new attitude will be, "if they want to bully me, it's perfectly ok. They can do it all day long and it doesn't bother me in the least." do not even be angry at them! The reason you shouldn't be angry is because it's a lousy feeling to be angry, and it will make your tormentors feel good. Also, since your new attitude is that it's perfectly all right for them to tease you, why in the world should you be upset with them for doing it?

Handle rumors confidently!

If you are a bullying victim, chances are that you are also a victim of rumours. Kids can torment you not only by saying insults to your face. They can also do it by saying bad things about you behind your back, and then other kids come and tell you what's being said about you. They enjoy it because you get very upset and worked up and they like it when you defend yourself. It makes them big and you become small. If you defend, you become a loser and they win. Don’t let the bullies get that chance. Express surprise and say: ‘really you heard that about me? It’s funny!’ and laugh at their stupidity for believing some nonsense about you. Do not get angry or upset about the rumour, or others will be more likely to believe it is true. You must let everyone see that you truly don't care about the rumours, and if they enjoy spreading rumours about you, it's perfectly ok with you.

Get some humor in your system!

Everyone enjoys a laugh but not at ones own expense. We like laughing at others not ourselves. But it’s true: laughter is the best medicine. And sad as it is true, we laugh when something or someone is being made fun of. Every joke is always at someone’s cost. When you laugh, someone is being made fun of. But then, it’s not that bad either. You must develop a sense of humour— it's a good thing! That's why laughing feels so good and helps us heal. Learn to accept jokes sometimes and laugh at yourself once in a while: people will love you and stop bullying you!

Make more friends

Man is a social animal. Our friends are our protectants, our shields and our armour. They protect us and stand up for us when others give us grief. If you are the one being bullied there are high chances that you don’t have friends because they think you’re a loser. But if you learn to accept yourself, add some humour and change your attitude, your bullies may become your best buddies! They are not bad people; they just have fun at your expense because you allow it. If you demand respect they will give it to you. So do not take things to heart. Learn to accept others and even if they’re trying to bully you act as if you are enjoying being with them! It’s a trap, they start enjoying being with you in return and you become part of their group.