Positives
are always better appreciated than criticism and negatives (how obvious is that
statement). When you want your children to be responsible human beings, you
need to first treat them like human beings instead of puppets and machines who react
to your commands. If you give them sufficient space and apposite opportunity to
live their life for themselves, they will be able to build on their own abilities.
Besides repeatedly telling them how they are not good enough, what they cannot
do or are not allowed to do; let them know and identify where they ‘are’
virtuous and what they ‘can’ do and are ‘allowed’ to do’. Encouraging them to
do their ‘own’ thing leads to optimistic outcomes in behavior.
